During my massage, I had an insightful moment with my therapist Sheree and I’d like to share it with you. She suggested coming up with a positive word to replace guilt when it comes to Mommy Guilt. Here’s what I came up with.
Implying that all Great moms are always thinking that they could be doing something better about a situation. We think we need to be doing everything 1000% with no help at all times. We need to be perfect 24/7 OCD style to be a great mother. This is not realistic and actually hinders our ability to give our best because then we become run down, exhausted and resentful. Then we feel guilty about that too. So next time you think of your mommy guilt accept that it is important to take care of yourself and indulge in your passions without guilt. Because when you’re at your best and have a network of support you can give even more. So take a nap, let yourself make mistakes, ask for help, have your massage, meditation time, or whatever you do to refill your cup, let your little one watch TV so you can have that quiet shower or go pee, make time for yourself – it’s OK.
Behind every child is a mother thinking she’s getting it all wrong. The fact that you have these “mommy perfection ” moments just proves you are trying to provide the best life for your children and are already a rock-star at motherhood.